Have you noticed a girl you like but aren’t sure how to approach her? While each female is unique, there are a few steps you may take to improve your chances of success. For some tips, check out this wikiHow.
The early days of dating are always the fun part. It’s where you can’t stop thinking about your girl and how you can make her happy. From flowers to chocolates and balloons, you have a lot of plans that are guaranteed to put a smile on her face.
However, as courtship ends, you feel less and less enthusiastic about wooing her. And that’s where problems happen and relationships break apart.
To keep your relationship in the best condition, here are some tips on how to woo a girl:
1. Be Genuine
Being genuine has become such an uncommon attribute in today’s environment. People are constantly being deceitful, posing as someone they aren’t in order to impress the girl. Consider how single men and women develop “images” of themselves on internet social media platforms.
However, a keen eye can distinguish genuine persons from imposters in person. Be sincere, and you will be admired for who you are.
2. Be chivalrous
I would strongly like to believe that chivalry isn’t dead. Be polite, open doors, walk on the traffic side of the road, and escort her and her friend’s home.
You may think these are small things but these small gestures will never go unnoticed. It’s not that she can’t do these things by herself but it is always good to know that there is someone who’s looking out for her.
3. Give her your undivided attention
Get off that mobile phone of yours when you are with her. You will have plenty of time to check game scores or reply to your messages and emails when you are home. Unless it is extremely urgent, it will always be appreciated if you can give your phones a rest and give your undivided attention to her.
4. Notice her and likes & dislikes
Always take mental notes of her likes and dislikes and surprise her when she least expects it. Take her to her favorite concert, order her favorite drink when she’s running late, notice when she gets a haircut or wears something different.
She will really appreciate the fact that you are taking a keen interest in her and what she likes, and it will make her feel very happy.
5. Be there when she needs someone
You sure as hell don’t need to be a girl’s doormat but you definitely want to be her shoulder to cry on when she needs it. If she needs someone by her side, make sure it’s you. It will show her how committed, dependable and serious you are about having her in your life and wanting to be in hers.
6. Don’t keep talking about yourself, learn to listen
No one likes a person who only talks about themselves and shows no interest in learning about the other person. If you are only going to keep bragging about yourself and your life, rest assured she will not turn to give you another look. Show a real interest in getting to know her better; it will take you a long way.
7. Make her feel special
If she is having a bad day, let her vent to you and be supportive about it. In fact, all you probably need to do is to listen.
Remember small dates like the first time you’ve met or the first time you took her out on a date. Make an effort to celebrate these with her. Do whatever is in your power to make her feel loved and cherished.
8. Keep that element of surprise
Now that you have learnt about what makes her happy, surprise her by using that information to your advantage. If she has a fantasy of a perfect date, make it happen for her. If she’s feeling low, show up on her doorstep to take her for a drive. Keep the element of surprise alive in order to keep her wondering and the excitement going.
9. Let her know that you are thinking about her
Drop her a message in the middle of the workday to check how her day is going or pick her up from work so that you’ll get that extra 30 minutes to spend together. Message her good morning first thing when you wake up or send her flowers or any small memento that makes you think of her.
Whatever big or small it maybe, show her that you are thinking about her.
10. Open up to her
Many men are brought up to avoid being vulnerable in front of the girl. However, think about it. You only open up in front of people you truly care about and are truly comfortable with. If you talk about your fears or your problems or what makes you sad, it will show her that you are really invested in her and are not there just to pass your time.
We live in a world where women are strong and independent. They don’t need a man to be able to provide for them. They don’t need someone who can pay for a date. They are more than capable of doing that themselves.
Instead, how about a man who can treat them right because somehow that breed has become very rare in the 21st century. Make her feel loved and special. Always think of being in the wooing phase even after being in a stable relationship for a while.
This way you will never take each other for granted. Often, spontaneity is the key to a happy relationship. Be on your toes and keep her on hers. In turn, she will surprise you with her love and loyalty as well.
As Marilyn Monroe says, “A girl doesn’t need anyone who doesn’t need her.”
Even if you want to play it safe and approach her as a friend, knowing how to woo a girl is simple. All you have to do is remember to stay out of the friend zone and remind her that you have more on your mind than friendship.